Leaders, if you engage in negative self-talk, you will sabotage your success!
I’m your Leadership Guide, Dr. Kim Moore. Welcome to the MOORE Leadership Moment.This week, we’ll discuss how negative self-talk can sabotage your success.
But, what if the story wasn’t true?
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Leaders, if you engage in negative self-talk, you will sabotage your success.
I’m your Leadership Guide, Dr. Kim Moore. Welcome to the MOORE Leadership Moment,
This week, we’ll discuss how negative self-talk can sabotage your success. But, what if the story wasn’t true?
Here’s why I ask…
When I was a child, I thought I could conquer the world. I believed I could be whatever I wanted.
I was going to be a doctor, who was a professional dancer, and singer.
One of my favorite pastimes was watching musical movies.
I loved to watch Fred Astaire, Gene Kelly, Ginger Rogers and Cyd Charisse dance their way through life’s ups and downs.
I would sing along and try to imitate their dance steps. Although I would practice, practice, practice, I could never master their steps!
As I grew older, something changed. Although I was a pretty good dancer growing up, I became convinced I could never become a great dancer. I began to doubt my abilities, which lead to a fear of failure.
To justify my beliefs, I told myself many different stories to rationalize not trying. For example, I would tell myself, we don’t have the money for dance lessons, or my friends would laugh at me.
Because of my negative self-talk, I never shared my desires with anyone.
As I matured, my career decisions evolved into more practical choices. When things didn’t work out, the voice in my head would tell me a story to justify my decision.
During a session with my executive coach, we discussed the next steps in achieving my goals.
She challenged me to answer the “what if you had no constraints” and “why not” questions.
As we discussed my responses, my coach tuned into the underlying theme of my story.
After I finished sharing why I believed a certain person was trying to sabotage my goals, my coach asked me why I felt that way? I gave her a detailed explanation to justify my response.
When I finished my story, she looked me in the eye and asked, “what if the story wasn’t true?”
Her question stopped me in my tracks. I wasn’t sure how to respond. My coach told me my story didn’t line up with the person’s actions.
As we ran out of time we agreed to continue our discussion during our next session.
As I prepared to leave, my coach asked me to tune in to my story and how it affects my decisions.
Over the next month, I began to understand the power of my coach’s question. As I tuned into my story, I realized how it was impacting my decisions.
As you move through your day, are you aware of your thoughts?
Leaders face challenges every day. The question is how you will respond.
So how do you change your story?
Start by tuning in to your self-talk. When negative talk starts, talk back to it! Take control of the conversation and change your story!
Remember: if you engage in negative self-talk, you will sabotage your success…
This week’s quote is by Lisa Hayes who said: “Be careful of how you are talking to yourself because you are listening.”
Thank you for viewing the MOORE Leadership Moment. I’m your leadership guide, Dr. Kim Moore.
How do you overcome negative self-talk?
#YourLeadershipGuide,
Kim
Lead Confidently
Expand Influence
Achieve Significance